Do you constantly long for wonderful things in your life that just don’t seem to be happening? Perhaps you are hoping for more love in your relationships, greater financial abundance, a career you truly enjoy, and better health. You have worked hard, may have thought about the quality of life you desire in countless ways, imagined it, and prayed for it – and still, it just doesn’t seem to be manifesting into your reality!
So why aren’t your hopes and dreams for a better life coming true?
In your pure state of spirituality, there is a higher aspect of yourself that already knows you deserve to be loved, joyful, healthy, peaceful and living in abundance. This is the natural way of being your Essential Self, or often times referred to as your Higher Self, that is connected to spiritual truth. When your thoughts are in harmony with your truth, you remember that you DESERVE to receive all of these blessings.
There is also another aspect of yourself, which is the ego part of your mind, that dwells on thoughts of fear. All thought is creative, so whatever you are experiencing is a giant mirror reflecting your predominant thoughts. When you focus on fear, you create fearful circumstances. When you choose to focus on unconditional love, you create loving experiences. Since fear is the opposite of love, when you choose thoughts of fear, you are blocking the flow of blessings that naturally flow to you through the energy of unconditional love.
One major way in which we block the flow of blessings manifesting into our physical reality is through guilt and shame.
When we hold on to these self-defeating fearful emotions, we are basically sending out a conflicting message to the Universe: “Yes, I ask for all these blessings to come into my life; but no, I can’t accept them because I am not deserving.” By doing this, we are separating our Spiritual Self from our Physical Self and are standing in our own way of receiving, Not surprisingly, we don’t feel like we are in the flow of life.
If you are feeling guilty or shameful, you are most likely dwelling on the past and judging yourself for all the things you have said or done to hurt yourself and others. Perhaps the rationalization you are using for holding onto guilt and shame is that you feel the need to punish yourself for the many things you may have said or done in the past that you now perceive as “wrong.” The problem is that this type of self-flagellation does not heal anyone or anything. In truth, holding onto guilt and self-punishment is a form of ego that confirms victimhood. If not expressed and transformed, chances are that your feelings of guilt and shame will turn into long-term resentment, bitterness, and anger because you are not being kind to yourself.
Express your feelings
Feeling guilty and shameful at times is human and appropriate. This is why it is important to be honest with yourself about your feelings and express them in a constructive way. Talking with a non-judgmental friend or professional health practitioner, spending time with people you love, participating in physical activity, and being with nature are just a few ways to let out your emotions. Expressing your feelings of guilt and shame is healthy – on the other hand, making these feelings a permanent foundation for your beliefs about yourself is extremely damaging. It can become a constant excuse for denying yourself the quality of life you want to live.
After you express your feelings, FORGIVE YOURSELF. Forgiving yourself does not mean that you just forget about everything. Forgiveness is a choice to stop living in the past and adjust your thoughts to focus in present time, where all possibilities exist. Forgiving yourself actually requires that you take full responsibility to choose healthier thoughts and actions. Since the past is already behind you, you now have a choice: you can drag along the pain and sorrow of your past experiences, or you can carry forward the lessons and growth that you have gained from dealing with the many challenges in your life. While this may seem like an oversimplification, this single decision will have a healing effect on your thoughts, your feelings, and your actions – in other words, it will change your whole reality!
Then make a commitment to yourself to be as honest and kind as you know to be to yourself and others from this point forward. This intention, based on forgiveness of self and others, requires an enormous amount of practice every day in every way. It is more than worth it because it harmonizes your thoughts with the frequency of Universal Love and will clear the way for you to receive the infinite blessings you DESERVE.
Love and Light,