Self-Evaluation of Seven Basic Beliefs Underlying Your Perceptions of Life – Part 5 of 7: Commitment to Be Your True Self

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Welcome to Part 5 of a 7 part series in which you are invited to become aware of the Basic Beliefs Underlying Your Perceptions of Life!  Even more importantly, you are offered the opportunity to transform your self-limiting beliefs of separation and fear into self-empowering beliefs of oneness and unconditional love.


Our basic beliefs are the fundamental concepts we have formed about ourselves and the world around us, based on the mental input we have received throughout our lives. They are the underlying thought forms deep within our psyche that support all our views of life.  Our basic beliefs have profound impact on the quality of our lives because they are the core of our personal values governing absolutely every perception we choose.


Many of our basic beliefs generate self-limiting thoughts because they are framed within our childhood perspectives, rooted in societal training, and do not reflect our whole self.


This week I invite you to become aware of your beliefs about your COMMITMENT TO BE YOUR TRUE SELF.


“Commitment” is making a conscious choice to genuinely step into life by fully expressing your authentic self.  This sounds incredibly simple – “so all I have to do is just be who I am?”  The answer is a resounding “YES!”  So why do we spend so much time and effort side stepping, withholding,  and even avoiding openly contributing our unique gifts and talents with the world?  Most likely, it is because we are going in circles with perceptions that are filled with self-judgment. This results in an endless list of paralyzing rationalizations:  Perhaps we are saying that we are not good enough, not smart enough, not wealthy enough, not healthy enough, not young enough, and/or not attractive enough to come out into the light and be seen for the unique person we were born to be.


The bottom line is that when we do this, we are making an unconscious decision to wait until we are perfect before we pursue our passions and dreams of what we really want to do with our lives.  Demanding that we be perfect is a form of self-attack in which we focus on our flaws.  Withholding the expression of our true self is a behavior which causes us pain at every level because we are constantly in a state of contraction.


When we shift our perceptions to focus on our strengths, gifts, talents, and passions, we are focusing on our light within. We can then use our energy to express more of who we ARE, rather than who we ARE NOT.  This perspective creates a state of expansion because we are freeing ourselves to live from the core of our inner spiritual truth.  When our thoughts, words, and actions are based on our spiritual values, we then begin to attract people, opportunities, and resources that support our mission to share our genuine self with the world.


The following is a Self-Evaluation of Your Beliefs About Your Commitment to be Your True Self.  As you scan through the questions, simply ask yourself, “Do I relate to the statements of Separation, or do I relate to the statements of Oneness?  The perceptions of separation correspond with fear and lock us into self-defeating behaviors, while the perceptions of oneness resonate with our spiritual truth of unconditional universal love and open us to our greater potential. 


It is best to trust your immediate, spontaneous responses to these questions.  When we analyze ourselves and deliberate over the answers, we run the risk of falling into the trap of self-judgment rather than pure awareness.


Remember, this evaluation is not an exercise in self-criticism, nor does it involve judgment of others.  It is merely a tool to shed the light of self-awareness on the foundation of beliefs upon which we base our view points of life.




Am I committed to sharing the gift of who I am with the world by expressing my true self and my unique talents?


Separation:  Holding back on one’s creative potential and true expression of feelings; being emotionally armored; being a perfectionist; judging self harshly.


Oneness:  Having the courage to express one’s unique and authentic self; being open and honest; being willing to enthusiastically share the gift of one’s self with the world.


Which statements do I most relate to – Separation or Oneness?


Where does this belief originate?  (i.e. parents, family culture, religion)


Is this my own personal truth now that I am an adult?




The following are affirmations to transform your perceptions of separation and fear into affirmations of oneness and unconditional love:


Feeling of Separation: I don’t even know who I am.

Affirmation of Oneness:  I am an expression of universal light and love.


Feeling of Separation:  I don’t know how to express myself.

Affirmation of Oneness:  I am spiritually guided to express my true self.


Feeling of Separation:  I am afraid to express my real feelings.

Affirmation of Oneness:  I am willing to express my genuine self.


Feeling of Separation:  My creativity is blocked.

Affirmation of Oneness:  I am an open channel for receiving and expressing my divine creative energy.


Feeling of Separation:  I am afraid I will fail.

Affirmation of Oneness: I am completely supported by the universe when I express my truth.


Remember:  Every single belief that you have stored into your brain is the result of constant repetition that has come from yourself – as well as from others.  YOU CAN CHANGE YOUR BELIEFS THROUGH THE PROCESS OF AFFIRMATIONS.  It does not matter whether you initially believe your affirmations.  Affirmations are a mental stretch moving toward spiritual truth.  With enough repetition, you will come to believe your Affirmations of Oneness.


Affirmations help us to develop the habit of consistent, positive self-dialogue.  By making a commitment to the ongoing practice of repeating affirmations of self-love, you have the power to transform your self-deprecating beliefs about yourself into self-respecting perceptions that reflect the truth of your Oneness with Spirit and universal love.


Simply stated, making a commitment to express your Genuine Self is your mission in life.  No one else in the world has your unique personality, physical structure, brain function, gifts, and talents.  Each one of us is a vital piece in the puzzle of the wholeness of humanity.  What could be more important?


I welcome any questions or insights you would like to share regarding your self-discovery process as you become conscious of your beliefs about your commitment to being your true self.


Love and Light




A portion of this message is an excerpt from the book, The Power of Oneness, Live the Life You Choose.  To learn more about how you can align your life with spiritual truth, order the book at 


Why Are Our Thoughts So Powerful?

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Whether or not we are conscious of it, our minds are always working.  Every thought we have is an energetic impulse which is constantly creating who we are and the circumstances within our lives.  This means that we are each participating in the awesome process of creation with each and every thought that we have!  Creation is not only something which has already happened – it is the eternal moment-to-moment manifestations of our thinking.  Manifestation is the process of our thoughts becoming evident to one or more of our five physical senses.



The creative dynamic of thought is sometimes referred to as The Law of Manifestation.   Like gravity, manifestation is a principle of nature which is constantly in effect, whether we are aware of it or not.  We begin to appreciate the miraculous power of our thoughts by understanding some of the dynamics of the Law of Manifestation.



All of our thoughts manifest into our physical world.



Absolutely everything we see and experience in our physical world began as a thought.  Whether it be the chair on which you are sitting, the birthday party you recently attended, or the picture you admired at the art gallery, it all began as an idea in someone’s mind.  You are always thinking; therefore, you are perpetually creating.  We are all channels of universal energy which is consistently flowing to and through us.  Because universal energy is the essence of life, it is neutral; however, as it flows through our minds it becomes positive or negative, depending on your perceptions.  Your thoughts, both positive and negative, generate your reality. Hatred and violence are manifestations of negative thoughts, just as love and peace are manifestations of positive thoughts.  Since you are automatically always creating, the question is:  Do you want to create consciously from the space of spiritual truth, or do you want to unconsciously allow the energy of mass consciousness to govern your thoughts?  Living a life of integrity requires that you master your own thought process on a conscious level rather than allowing your thoughts to be controlled by others or trying to control the thoughts of others.



What we focus on expands.



When you steadfastly hold to an intention, whatever you are concentrating on expands, whether it involves a person or a situation.  For example, when you consciously intend to focus on what you like about someone, you find more to like about that person and your relationship with that person is very likely to improve. If your intention is to concentrate on their faults, you will increasingly find more to dislike about that person, which is bound to create more difficulties in your relationship.  Likewise, when you focus your attention on the things that are going “wrong” in your life, you will create more problems within your life to confirm your thoughts that life is a constant struggle.  When you dedicate your attention to all the things that are going “right” in your life, you will observe and experience increasingly more pleasant situations.



What we think is what we attract.



When we set our thoughts into motion with our intentions, the universe responds through the law of attraction.  Because every thought is an electrical impulse, each of us is like a radio station in that we transmit our thoughts by sending out a certain frequency.  The frequencies of our thoughts are vibrations.  The vibrations of our thoughts magnetize other thoughts on the same frequency.  This means that whatever we send out is what comes back to us – thoughts of love attract loving people and situations;  just as thoughts of fear attract fearful people and situations.



We can change our reality by changing our thoughts.



If you don’t like what we see in your exterior world, you don’t have to wait for the circumstances to change.  You have the creative power to change your external circumstances by changing the internal world of your thoughts!



How many times have we heard ourselves and others say that our lives will be better when we have more money, more time, less work, fewer problems, and the list goes on and on.  When we do this, we are, in essence, waiting for our circumstances to change us instead of changing our situations.  Our life circumstances are not the cause of thoughts – they are the result of the thoughts we are sending out to the world!  We do not need to wait for situations to change before we feel better.  When we choose to think differently, the circumstances will follow our thoughts.



Life is not a permanent condition.  It is a dynamic process of constant change and growth.  If we don’t like what we are attracting, we have the power to change how we are experiencing life by changing the thoughts we are projecting.  Our frequency then changes, as does everything we attract.



What an amazing realization!  We have the power to change the condition of our lives. When we change our thoughts we change the world around us!  After all, we ARE infinite potential!



Love and Light,



What is the Difference Between “Giving Up” and “Letting Go?”

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Most of us have been barraged throughout our lives with messages about the importance of “never giving up,” so the thought of ever “letting go” might seem weak and powerless.  In fact, you might perceive that these two concepts are totally opposite.



So what IS the difference between “never giving up” and “letting go?”  Actually, I believe they are different sides of the same coin.



Never Give Up



Many of us associate the phrase, “never give up” with a perception of having a relentless, uncompromising, pre-conceived idea of how we view things should be, as well as maintaining a dogged determination to make it happen. This interpretation feeds into the illusion that we have control over other people and outer circumstances and can prove to be very exhausting and frustrating.



I believe that the loving, spiritual meaning beneath this phrase
is never give up on YOURSELF. 



In order to stay true to yourself, it is healthy to never give up on:


     1.  Remembering that you have the power to co-create with the Universe.  You do this by praying, imagining, clarifying dreams, holding visions, and setting goals that serve to take you in the direction of creating the qualities of life you choose to live.


     2.  Persisting to have the enormous amount of courage it takes in order to face your fears head-on.


     3.  Mustering up the inner strength required to handle the many set-backs that occur when things do not turn out in the specific ways you have imagined.


     4.  Rising above the criticism that you face from people who do not support you in your dreams, visions, and goals.


     5.  Committing to take action on the infinite numbers of things you need to do to cooperate with the Universe to make your dreams of a better life come true.


     6.  Having the faith to believe that every experience you have is taking you in the direction of Wholeness, no matter how it looks in your physical world.


     7.  And that’s where “letting go” comes in.




Letting Go



Many of us associate the phrase “letting go” with giving up, resignation, quitting, and “losing.”  Far from the truth!  Actually, “letting go” is an attitude of tremendous inner spiritual strength.  It means that after we take full responsibility for honoring our personal roles in co-creating with the Universe by “never giving up” on ourselves (items 1 to 6 above) – we then “let go” of trying to control how everything manifests in our lives.



Simply stated, “letting go” means letting go of our personal attachment to outcomes.  When we “let go,” we are not sacrificing anything.  Indeed, we are creating a vastly larger space to allow for the  Infinite Potential of the Universe to create magnificent outcomes that far transcend our human perceptions.  This is because we are choosing to put the limitation of our egos aside and  accept  that Divine Love is at work in manifesting how our thoughts, words, and actions appear to us in our physical world – even when the outcomes don’t coincide with our personal ideas. “Letting go” is having the faith to accept that the Universe is totally cooperating with us through the power of unconditional love.



When seen from this higher spiritual perspective, we can see that  “never giving up” on ourselves and “letting go” of our attachment to outcomes are two dynamics that actually work in perfect harmony!



Love and Light,