What is My Life Purpose?

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This is perhaps the most frequently asked question in life. We all long to know why we came to this earth and what is the meaning of our lives.


This question incites a tremendous drive within us to discover the answer. Whether on a conscious or subconscious level, we are aware that knowing our soul’s purpose helps us to realize our true potential, gives meaning to our lives, or, at the very least, helps us to make sense of the extraordinary challenges we all face each day.


In an attempt to discover our life purpose in a definable way, we look everywhere. Perhaps we seek our life purpose through our jobs or through our personal relationships. Maybe we seek our life purpose by striving to be wealthy, or by obtaining powerful positions of influence, or by being popular. We may even seek our life purpose by trying to have the perfect body.


If you are seeking to discover your life purpose in these external ways, you most likely feel frustrated, unfulfilled, and downright exhausted. This is because our life purpose cannot be discovered outside of ourselves through titles, money, power, fame, or physical appearance. There is certainly nothing wrong with being successful, powerful, influential, and attractive. The trap lies in our believing that this is what defines us. Our true life purpose is not found in the roles we play in life. It works the other way around.


Our life purpose lies within our souls – the answer is within.


In other words, it is not about DOING, it is about BEING. To cite the popular quote originated by Yogi Bhajan, “We are not human doings – we are human beings.”


I believe that many of us feel we have not discovered our life purpose because we are looking for some grandiose life mission that involves saving humanity. Some of us even believe that this salvation can only be accomplished  by becoming a doctor, a miraculous healer, or by accomplishing some heroic deed.


The truth is that when we focus our attention on BEing, we begin to realize that every thought we have, every word we speak, and every action we take is not only creating our personal reality, it also has a ripple effect on everyone, everywhere. This awareness creates an authentic motivation from within, and our accomplishments become the result of our living in alignment with our spiritual values rather than a quest for external validation.


“Worrying does not take away tomorrow’s troubles,

it takes away today’s peace.”


BEing our genuine self requires bringing awareness to every moment. This means we let go of the pain of the past and stop stressing about the future. I love the saying, “Worrying does not take away tomorrow’s troubles, it takes away today’s peace.” When we focus our energy in present time, we are free to be who we are. We shift our energy from our heads into our hearts, which allows us to choose thoughts, words, and deeds that are kind, respectful, compassionate, and cooperative.


So, we can stop elusively searching for the meaning of life. There really is an answer and it is the same for every one of us. Our life purpose is to BE love.


Have you been searching outside yourself to discover your life purpose?


I welcome you to share your story.


Love and Light,



Self Love – The Basis for All Healing

This is an image of block letters that spell out LOVE YOURSELF

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You can only unconditionally love and accept others by first unconditionally loving and accepting yourself.



“You can only unconditionally love and accept others by first unconditionally loving and accepting yourself.” When I first heard this statement many years ago, I was sitting in my first holistic health class in which we were discussing the fundamental principles underlying spiritual healing. At that time, the words sounded strange to my logical mind, yet somehow resonated at a heart level. I was in my early twenties when I took this course and recall perceiving that I found it easy to love a lot of people, no matter how I felt about myself. I prided myself in thinking that I had spent a good part of my life helping others.



I had not thought that much about loving MYSELF.



Yet, this statement really opened my mind to the awareness that, up until that point, I had not thought that much about loving MYSELF. I was raised in a strong Germanic culture, and my parents had taught me to always put other people’s needs ahead of my own. Helping others was the first priority. Secondary to that was having a strong work ethic. “Fun” was something you had if there was any time after all your work was finished! I don’t recall any key figures in my childhood, or for that matter anyone up until that moment in class, ever mentioning the importance of loving and enjoying myself. In fact, in those days I was taught that it was downright selfish to put my personal needs and desires ahead of the physical and emotional needs of other people.



 I was a “good” person when I put other people first.



My parents meant well – they were simply passing the emotional hand-me-down given to them from their parents. While their intentions were kind and honest, what I did not realize until that point, was that I had subconsciously incorporated these messages into a belief system that was based on the foundation that I was a “good” person when I put other people’s needs ahead of my own. I was a “selfish” person when I focused on addressing my own mental, emotional, and physical needs.



 I thought I could fix other people.



As I committed myself to understanding the necessity of self love at a deeper level, the memories began to surface. I started to recognize that as I grew into a young adult, this belief system had mushroomed into my creating many painful memories and melodramas with the common theme of me playing the savior role. I was living under the illusion that I could fix situations for other people. Not surprisingly, I constantly attracted people who wanted me to “save” them or complete them. What I did not realize was that I was seeing a reflection of what I most needed to recognize within myself: I also wanted to be completed through others by wanting them to validate me for my savior role. This awareness opened the door to a crucial turn around in my life.



Self love is at the root of all spiritual healing.



Most people whom I have met in life have not been taught self love; they have learned it through the life experiences they have created.  Self love, after all, is at the root of all issues of spiritual healing. Through my own life experiences, I came to fully understand that what I heard in class that day really was true. We have to first love ourselves in order to unconditionally love another.


Love and Light,